Moving Past Difficulty

Written By Karma Hill

Do you struggle to move past the most difficult situation ever? Or are you convinced that some people are just unforgivable? Though it may be challenging, radical acceptance could help.

Radical acceptance is totally and completely accepting a situation or event that causes you suffering, and this acceptance is felt on a completely cellular level throughout the entire body. Radical acceptance/forgiveness is not excusing, condoning, pushing against, or trying to change what is. There are three parts to radical acceptance:

1. accepting that reality is what it is,

2. that all events have a cause, and

3. that life can be worth living even with painful events in it.

Self-compassion can help you move into a place of total acceptance because it involves directing sensitivity inwardly to your own experience of suffering along with a deep desire to alleviate the suffering. Self-compassion can help because it deactivates the threat system, activates the self-soothing system, helps individuals feel more connected, and reduces feelings of isolation. This can allow you to be supportive and comfort yourself when experiencing hurt, disappointment, or failure. Radically accepting does not mean you will not feel pain which is why using self-compassion to comfort yourself and express understanding for your pain will help you live with it.

Using mindfulness practices can help you make contact with the present moment and help you recognize that pushing against or not accepting the situation is robbing you of the value of the present moment. Using meditation can allow you to observe your thoughts without acting on them. Journaling on the the lessons you learned from this difficult experience can help you commit to taking the actions to radically accept your situation.

Many people feel that they cannot forgive or accept because the event is too traumatic, or they will be condoning or excusing the behavior that caused the pain. Forgiveness can be one of the best gifts that we give ourselves and has nothing to do with another person or event. I believe forgiving is reclaiming your power and when you choose to forgive you are choosing compassion and empathy for yourself which are amazing gifts to give yourself. Radical acceptance/forgiveness liberates you from the intensity of the pain and allows you to create a full life even though you have this painful situation.

Karma Hill

Karma Hill is a renowned Positive Psychologist, ICF accredited Executive Leadership Coach, and the visionary founder of Konversations with Karma. With a strong background in mental and behavioral health, Karma brings a unique perspective to her work as she helps leaders and organizations create flourishing work cultures and prioritize holistic well-being.

As a board member of ICF Georgia and a doctoral candidate in Business Psychology Consulting, Karma is at the forefront of her field, constantly seeking new knowledge and insights to better serve her clients. Her dedication and expertise have earned her recognition, including being listed on Yahoo Finance's Top 10 Life Coaches To Look Out For In 2021.

Karma's personal journey has played a significant role in shaping her professional path. As a heart attack survivor, she understands firsthand the importance of holistic well-being in thriving. Additionally, her experience advocating for services for her child with a behavioral/mental health diagnosis has further deepened her understanding of the challenges individuals and families face.

Combining her background in positive psychology, coaching, and her own life experiences, Karma equips her clients with the necessary tools and strategies to navigate their own challenges and achieve remarkable results. Her passion, commitment, and unwavering belief in the power of individuals to create positive change are the driving forces behind her work.

Karma believes that by tapping into our unique experiences, talents, and gifts, we can illuminate the world and make a lasting impact. With her guidance, clients not only prioritize their own well-being but also elevate their lives to phenomenal heights, enabling them to create positive change within themselves and the world around them. Through her work, Karma inspires and empowers individuals and organizations to take action, embrace their potential, and shine their lights.

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